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Unconventional guide to coping with bitter lies and vicious rumors.
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Did you ever have this
problem? Someone spreading rumors about you and you are the last one to know that? Or
someone punishing you for something you didn't do? Whether you are 6, 16 or 60 y.o. it
hurts.
This page is dedicated to
coping with bitter lies and vicious rumors. Please, feel free to write here if you
can help, write if you need help, too. You are not alone. So many people are willing to
help you cope with difficult time regardless on age, religion (or no religion at
all) or nationality. If you are living being, you are welcome here.
I will start with my own ideas.
Pointless - You
can't make someone stop telling lies. But you do have full control over your own actions.
No one can make you tell lies either. People will eventually know you
don't lie. Ever.
Point to remember -
It took 15million years of evolution to develop human to the level of Homo Sapience, but
it takes one day to drop to level of Homer Simpson. Remember this - it is better to be
considered as Homer Simpson, than actually being like one.
Point 1 - Those who judge
people sooner or later are going to misjudge. Some do that on a regular basis.
Point 2 - If you are being
judged, or judge someone else, look at point 1. In first case it will make you feel
better, in second it might make you think wether it is worth doing so on the first place.
Point 3 - Trust
yourself. To those who really know you, you don't have to prove anything, those who
don't, you won't prove anything anyway. Quite often people judge others,
because they are not sure of their own virtues.
- Sometimes being smart is not wise.
If you start lies about those who lie about you then they will have succeeded. Do you have
to play their games by their rules? Keep your head high. If you are sure of your
innocence, nobody can take it off you no matter how hard they try.
- Most people will believe the
worst. Or believe the lie just because the liar was the
first one to tell the story. Or maybe because the liar has some kind of
authority due to mature age, position or religion.
- Learn to be kind to those, who are not
kind to you and you will learn real
kindness. Nobody can ever take
it of you. Trouble will pass, but kindness will be still with you. The more you give, the
more you have.
- Do you want that revenge? Think again.
Isn't that what they want you to do? Why should you play their game by
their rules? (Am I repeating myself?)
- Ok, you are hurt now. Open your eyes,
look at those who point fingers at you, three fingers are pointing back at them. No
one is an angel. Some need reassurance and get it from judging others. Deep down is the
real reason of most rumors - that they don't want people to see their own weaknesses.
- What goes around, comes around. They
can't lie to their own soul, nobody can. But do you have to increase the amount of evil in
the world just because someone else does?
- They might put you in a position to need
to clear your name, don't! Keep your head high. Sometimes being sure in your
own rightfulness is the best tactic possible. You might be in need to clear your
name, but they have to clear their souls.
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